Effects of dating on children after divorce
And ask your professors to look up Constance Ahrons's work as well: a new Simon-Shuster book written by Wendy Paris, is available at all book stores, with many first hand experiences.
Without a good understanding, what you say is certainly true.
No fault divorce and holistic processes such as mediation and collaborative divorce really help parents NOT use kids as pawns. And if the kids ever wonder whether you'll abandon them the way you abandoned their father, never fear!
But an avalanche of studies over the past 40 years shows that this isn’t what they need.Development psychologist Mavis Hetherington’s work following 2,500 children of divorce also showed about 80-percent of the kids doing well, as did a 2012 meta-survey analyzing about a thousand studies on childhood adjustment done over the last four decades, conducted by child development expert and Cambridge University professor Michael Lamb.Michael Lamb’s meta-study, “Mothers, Fathers, Families, and Circumstances: Factors Affecting Children's Adjustment,” sums up the features of a supportive childhood: What Lamb’s exhaustive overview and the work of dozens of other scholars shows is that marriage isn’t what matters so much to a child’s wellbeing, but rather a loving relationship with parents who aren’t embroiled in conflict, and a decent home life.I only know two families where it was handled really well and no animosity resulted between the two adults, themselves, and their children. If anything, the Mother consistently boosted the Father and vice versa, even though both were married to other people.Wendy's book does much to address this issue and perhaps should become a "textbook" for split families. My research is from the study cited in my post by Michael Lamb. His study cites 1000 other studies over the past 40 years.