Dating for 5 years not engaged
And I broke it off because we just refused to communicate with each other. There are bigger things in life that you could stress over then marriage, of all things.
And that lead to fights and stress, and we couldn't work it out. I will say what frightens me about this post is that you are considering moving on or breaking up with him because he hasn't brought up marriage.
My younger sister even got married over 2 years ago.
Now the pressure is coming on us from both his parents and mine and our friends.
It isn't that I don't want to get married, it's more that I don't want to deal with the stress of a wedding when I'm dealing with the stress of getting established at work at the same time.
I understand there is pressure, but fuck everybody else.marriage is less of a 'next step', and more of an officiated honoring of what already exists.
Now we are both starting our careers and I think it's time to take the next step.
Most of our friends are getting married, are married already,or have bought houses with their significant others.
Marriage isn't a race, and its not gonna go anywhere. To add onto your post - I was in a relationship for 8 years, 6 months.
When you bring this up with him, don't bring up the fact that for it then bring those up, but don't put him under the pressure of a lot of people wanting you to get married.
It would be unfair to him (as it is unfair to you) and could lead to poor decision-making and a lot of regret in the future.
I understand as a women the pressure to marry is high and seeing your friends and family walk down the isle can add stress to the issue.
My question to you is why do you feel the need to get married so badly?